Tuesday, June 28, 2016

Mr. O-P


As you all know, Mr. O-P entered Hospice Care a while ago. I now have the sad task of telling you that on Saturday evening, June 25th, he passed away. I take solace in knowing that he was unaware that he wasn’t going to survive, and in the fact that I was able to care for him here at home until he took his last breath.

We have a long history together, beginning when I was his student in college, and then his researcher, and eventually his wife. Marrying someone twenty years my senior was a bold move, but one I will never regret because we had a marvelous time together, working in some of the most beautiful libraries around the world, and living in some truly amazing cities.

This is my favorite picture of him. It was taken when we were working at Yale and living in North Haven, CT in a house on 12 acres of land with four deer, dozens of turkeys, a resident skunk, and Gothic tower, erected by an artist proficient in metal sculpture. I miss him already.

29 comments:

Denise said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. There are no words I can say except that you and your family are in my prayers and thoughts!

Kim Bates said...

So sorry for your loss...sending comforting hugs to you.

Valerie Roberts said...

So very sorry. Hoping you find peace. You are loved.

Mountain Mama said...

I am so terribly sorry for your loss, Patti. My sweetie is 18 years my senior and I know that in the future there is a good possibility that I will be caring for him to some extent. I am glad to know you have no regrets, and that you had a good life together. Truly, I am so sorry.
Hugs from the mountain top - xoxo

Tracy Wood said...

My most sincere condolences to you at this time of sorrow.

Sandra Helmes said...

So very sorry for your loss.

GRC_Ltd said...

I am so very, very sorry for your loss. What wonderful memories, and some day you will be able to look back without sorrow and just smile. But for now, I know how much pain is in your heart as we have traveled the same road.
Wishing you peace and solace....

jmac said...

Thinking of you Big Time. And for some reason you have really been on my mind since Saturday. Now I know why.
He is still with you only now with no pain or sickness. He will send you a sign that everything will be ok
Hugs to you....

SavoringTime in the Kitchen said...

I'm so sorry, Pattie :( Deepest Condolences! That is a great photo of him.

Tammy Doucette said...

I am so very sorry for your loss. It sounds like you had a wonderful life together. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. ❤️

Shirley said...

I'm so very sorry to read of your loss. I remember well some of the stories you used to share on the BakeryShoppe list. Blessings to you!!

susie @ persimmon moon cottage said...

I am very sorry for your loss.

thepaintedapron.com said...

Dear Pattie,
I am so sorry for your loss, and hope your wonderful memories will help you through the days ahead-much love and many prayers-
Jenna

Cee Pluse said...

I am so very sorry for your loss of this special man. The two of you had a wonderful life together. I hope that your sorrow is tempered by your memories of those years. Please take care of yourself and give yourself plenty of time to grieve -- we will all be here for you when you are ready to return. (I too am married to a professor many years my senior, and have never had any regrets.)

Liz@ Infuse With Liz said...

So sorry for your loss. Sounds like you've had a wonderful life together. May your memories carry you through this difficult time.

Mae Travels said...

I'm very sorry to read of your loss, and I wish you courage and uplifting times in the future.

best... mae at maefood.blogspot.com

Sharon S said...

I am so sorry for your loss. May you find comfort in the wonderful memories you have of your lives together. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

The JR said...

I'm so sorry. He sounds like he was a wonderful husband.

Take care,

Mary@mydogsmygardenandmary said...

Oh, I am so sorry to learn of your husbands passing.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Mary

Beatrice Euphemie said...

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I am sending my heartfelt thoughts and prayers to you in this difficult time. May God Bless. xx Karen

Marigene said...

My thoughts and prayers to you at this most difficult time, Pattie. Jim sounds like he was such a wonderful man. My heart aches for you.

There's one more star up in the sky tonight.
Even though it is far away,
its brightness and warmth
still reach us here
to make the night a little less dark.

thel day said...

So sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you at this sad time. God bless you.

Deborah Lacy said...

Big hugs Pattie. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Linda said...

Oh Pattie I'm so sorry. I have not been active on any blogs lately and hadn't seen your last few posts. We often don't really know what is going on with our blog friends, and your courageous spirit is very much admired by me and your many blog readers. I can't imagine how much you miss him. Keep up your strength and here's hoping you will get back to feeding yourself good food again. I am praying for you.

sandy said...

Sorry to read this and may you be comforted in some way by the fact his love will always be there for you.

jmac said...

Continuing to think of you and send comforting mojo your way....

thepaintedapron.com said...

Bless you Pattie, and I so admire your strength. I think of tablescaping as therapy too, it always calms me and takes away stress. Love and prayers-
Jenna

GratefulPrayerThankfulHeart said...

So sorry to read of your great loss, Pattie.

Mary said...

Oh Pattie...I'm so sorry to here about Mr. O-P. Your photo of his is wonderful. Thinking of you. ♥